My husband and I just had the "I don't need you to manage me!" conversation a few days ago. I forget what exactly I was trying to manage about him, but it was small and meaningless - not worth my effort or his annoyance. It's easier for me to stop playing my work persona at home if I recognize that he and I (1) process information very differently, (2) both have solid work ethics BUT different work styles and (3) are both stubborn and like to be in charge. So we have to take turns, or someone will always feel dominated, and not in a good way!